Barrel of Boundaries

Setting boundaries can be a tricky thing, but we have to do it.  If we don’t, we can be manipulated so easily.  Especially women.  Why?  Because we are typically the nurturers, the caretakers, the keeper of the keys to the family.  The purpose of having boundaries is to protect and take care of ourselves. We need to be able to tell other people (yes, especially those we love) when they are acting in ways that are not acceptable to us. We have not only the right, but the duty, to take responsibility for how we allow others to treat us.

Once upon a time, long, long ago, humans lived in a matriarchal society, where the feminine energy was dominant.  Eventually that changed into a more male dominated energy.  Even though women have made tremendous strides in so many areas, setting healthy boundaries is pretty important.  And it’s equally as important for men.  Have you ever felt like you’ve given yourself away to everyone else?  If so, what’s left for you?  How can you give if you don’t have enough energy to take care of yourself?

I’ve been there … got the t-shirt, complete with the tear stains and I’m here to say … today … that I’m just not going there again.

Today’s photo is a Barrel Cactus in my yard.  I believe it has some pretty visible boundaries and you can bet I won’t be crossing them.  I respect this cactus for what it is.  Namaste’