An Ending and a Beginning

As many of you know, my stepdad, Bud, has been very ill and was in a nursing facility for quite some time.  A week ago yesterday we managed to get him out of there with the help of hospice.  The same hospice that took care of my brother when he passed a few years ago. I simple can’t say enough about how wonderful and caring they are.

Bud passed yesterday after a valiant fight to “come back.”  His daughter, one of his sons, one of his granddaughters, my mom and me were by his side. It was very hard to watch him waste away and I don’t want that picture of his last days and hours to stay in my mind.  So I’m posting this one that I took of him a couple of years ago, before he started to decline.

Bud had a fabulously critical, mathematical mind, being an engineer and all.  He traveled to some really cool places like Brazil, Indonesia, Saudi Arabia, France, Germany and England during his career, performing complete estimates on what it would cost to build cement plants in those places.  I can remember how thrilled he would be when he got back and would later get the news that his bid won the contract for his employer.  He was an avid fisherman and golfer in his younger years, a really good cook and gardener (he grew the best tomatoes this side of the moon) and a wonderful “step-grandpa” for my kids.  Their paternal grandfather was killed in a car accident when my son was two weeks old.  And my father had another life and geographical distance.  So Buddy stepped up to the plate in so many ways for me and my kids.

My mom and him were married for 51 years.  He will be sorely missed.  Rest in peace, Buddy.  I hope you’ve found the ultimate peaceful lake for fishing somewhere on the other side.  Namaste’

Sept. 23, 1923 - March 9, 2013
09.23.1923 – 03.09.2013

 

 

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Comfortable

This is how Daisy lays when she wants comfort on her belly. Lots of thoughts and emotions going on for me today. Maybe I should take a lesson from Daisy and just take comfort in the smallest o
f things. Yep; good plan.Namaste’

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Back End 🙂

Phoneography

Wouldn’t you know it?  I didn’t have my camera with me yesterday (highly unusual) and hubby wanted to stop at the nursery.  Well, of course there were some spectacular flowers so I started snapping away with my phone’s camera.  At least I had that, eh?  Here’s a few from yesterday’s adventure.  Click on each one to enlarge. The bottom photo is a metal yard art flower.  Would look great in anyone’s garden.  Namaste’

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And Then It is Winter

I received an email from a very dear friend of mine … a life-long friend actually.  One that I’ve known and loved for 50 years.  How many of us can be so lucky as to have a friend for that long?  I consider myself very blessed indeed.  Anyway, here’s the email – republished for you all to think about and enjoy.  Maybe we’re not all in our “winter” yet but even so, the meaning of this is appropriate for all human beings.

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AND THEN IT IS WINTER

You know. . . Time has a way of moving quickly and catching you unaware of the passing years. It seems just yesterday that I was young, just married and embarking on my new life with my mate. Yet in a way, it seems like eons ago, and I wonder where all the years went. I know that I lived them all. I have glimpses of how it was back then and of all my hopes and dreams.

But, here it is… The winter of my life and it catches me by surprise….How did I get here so fast? Where did the years go and where did my youth go? I remember well seeing older people through the years and thinking that those older people were years away from me and that winter was so far off that I could not fathom it or imagine fully what it would be like.
But, here it is…my friends are retired and getting grey…they move slower and I see an older person now. Some are in better and some worse shape than me…but, I see the great change…Not like the ones that I remember who were young and vibrant…but, like me, their age is beginning to show and we are now those older folks that we used to see and never thought we’d be.

Each day now, I find that just getting a shower is a real target for the day! And taking a nap is not a treat anymore… it’s mandatory! Cause if I don’t on my own free will… I just fall asleep where I sit!

And so…now I enter into this new season of my life unprepared for all the aches and pains and the loss of strength and ability to go and do things that I wish I had done but never did!! But, at least I know, that though the winter has come, and I’m not sure how long it will last…this I know, that when it’s over on this earth…it’s over. A new adventure will begin!
Yes, I have regrets. There are things I wish I hadn’t done…things I should have done, but indeed, there are many things I’m happy to have done. It’s all in a lifetime.
So, if you’re not in your winter yet…let me remind you, that it will be here faster than you think. So, whatever you would like to accomplish in your life please do it quickly! Don’t put things off too long!! Life goes by quickly. So, do what you can today, as you can never be sure whether this is your winter or not! You have no promise that you will see all the seasons of your life…so, live for today and say all the things that you want your loved ones to remember…and hope that they appreciate and love you for all the things that you have done for them in all the years past!!
“Life” is a gift to you. The way you live your life is your gift to those who come after. Make it a fantastic one.

LIVE IT WELL!

ENJOY TODAY!

DO SOMETHING FUN!

BE HAPPY !

HAVE A GREAT DAY!

And I Love each and everyone of you, some as my children, or grand & great grandchildren, and some as old friends or relatives, and one special one “just because I want to”.

Remember “It is health that is real wealth and not pieces of gold and silver”
LIVE HAPPY IN 2013!

LASTLY, CONSIDER THE FOLLOWING:

TODAY IS THE OLDEST YOU’VE EVER BEEN,YET THE YOUNGEST YOU’LL EVER BE SO – ENJOY THIS DAY WHILE IT LASTS.
~Your kids are becoming you……but your grandchildren are perfect!

~Going out is good.. Coming home is better!

~You forget names…But it’s OK because other people forgot they knew you!!!

~You realize you’re never going to be really good at anything…. Especially golf.

~The things you used to care to do, you no longer care to do, but you really do care that you don’t care to do them anymore.

~You sleep better on a lounge chair with the TV blaring than in bed. It’s called “pre-sleep”.

~You miss the days when everything worked with just an “ON” and “OFF” switch

.~You tend to use more 4 letter words … “what?”…”when?”… ???

~Now that you can afford expensive jewelry, it’s not safe to wear it anywhere.

~You notice everything they sell in stores is “sleeveless”?!!!

~What used to be freckles are now liver spots.

~Everybody whispers.

~You have 3 sizes of clothes in your closet…. 2 of which you will never wear.

~ But Old is good in some things: Old Songs, Old movies, and best of all, OLD FRIENDS!!

Stay well, “OLD FRIEND!” Send this on to other “Old Friends!” and let them laugh in an AGREEMENT!!!

It’s Not What You Gather, But What You Scatter That Tells What Kind Of Life You Have Lived.!!!

The photo below really is the last of my “winter” pictures.  I just thought it was appropriate for the theme of this post.  Namaste’

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